Advice For Twin Flame Chaser

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Someone posted the link to this on Facebook just now and I thought I would share it here. I’m sure many of you will identify with the “chaser” as I did. I found this to be helpful in putting it in perspective. Enjoy!

Advice For Twin Flame Chaser
by RICHEE on JULY 10, 2012

http://www.twinflamesigns.com/twin-flame-relationships-2/advice-for-twin-flame-chaser

Twin Flame Chaser

Becoming the Chaser is not something that this partner intentionally does… It happens naturally… The inner ‘knowing’ and awareness of the twinflame connection is what drives the Chaser.

Women are usually more emotionally sensitive than men… That’s what often makes the woman in the twinflame relationship understand the true nature of it before the man does.

Men are also conditioned (since the caveman era, when they had to hunt for survival) to hide their emotions and feelings… that makes them suppress the inner ‘knowingness’, consciously or subconsciously, with or without their own knowledge…

For this reason, The Twin Flame Chaser is usually the woman.
[That does not mean that a man can not be in this position, It ultimately depends on the life plan.]

To make things simpler to understand, we’ll assume that the Chaser is the woman.

Being highly sensitive, The Chaser can ‘feel’ the depth of this relationship and knows that it is somehow special… This feeling is there even if she doesn’t consciously know what it is all about…
Now, When the other Twin flames suddenly tried to escape or run away,
Two things happen to the Chaser.

One – She is deeply hurt and afraid of losing her partner.

The intensity and the depth of love that she feels for the twinflame is more than anything else that she has probably ever felt. When the Runner just runs away without even a warning, she gets a huge emotional shock… much more than she can handle.
This makes her act ‘crazy’ sometimes. She will, at this point, do almost anything to get the Runner back…

The emotional pain of the Chaser is intensified even more by the memories or residue of the many previous lives in which she had lost him.
All the pain and suffering from all of those lives is stirred up and comes back to the surface when the Runner runs away…

Two – She knows there is some deeper meaning to this relationship and feels that the two of them ‘Should be together’ to make things alright.

She has a feeling deep inside that everything will be okay… they should just be together (which is true).
She might not be explain this to the Runner or to anyone else but strongly feels it.

And because of these reasons,
She tries to ‘Chase’ the Runner.
To get him back, no matter how.

The Chaser herself might be very confused at this stage, she might not even be able to understand whats happening to her,
all she knows is that she cant afford to lose the Runner, no matter what.

The Chasing, however, only pushes the Runner further away.
Then comes a point when she shatters completely (emotionally).
The pain of having the runner run can be literally mind numbing.

Now That’s where God’s magic begins…
She tries to look up information just to find out what was it that is happening to her. It is not just a normal relationship, she knows that for sure.
And that’s when the Spiritual reality reveals itself to her.
That’s when she understands the sacredness of this relationship…
and all of this ultimately leads to her Enlightenment.

Then comes the Waiting time. That is when the ‘Chaser’ is enlightened and the Runner is still running…
This can again be a very hard time for the Chaser.

Ultimately, once the phase is over, the runner does return, and that’s when the Grand Reunion happens

Advice For Twin Flame Chaser

If you’ve read about ‘The Chaser’ and figured that its you, here is some advice…

Know that your partner WILL Return…
With all that you are going through, knowing that the runner will return is enough to ease half the pain.
Twinflames are ever connected by the eternal sacred bond that never breaks.
They are literally created to be with each other. Nothing can take them away from each other.

Understand that your partner will come back once they are ready for the intensity of this relationship.

Let them take their time, pushing or chasing is not of much use.

Avoid ‘Chasing’ him/her
The runner runs because they are afraid of the intensity of the relationship at some level.
Chasing him/her at this point only makes them run more.
Give them some time, and know that they will come when they are ready.

Know that the universe in helping you
Being in the ‘Chaser’ position can be hard. You might feel lonely and helpless. DONT.

The universe plays its magic in bringing twinflames together.
Know that you are supported by all divine beings in someway… whether you know it or not.
Doing too much at a human level is not required to get your twinflame back… just remain calm and you’ll see that everything takes care of itself (it might take some time, but trust me it will happen… just be patient)

Believe In Yourself
During this phase, there is often a lot of confusion.
Your mind does not agree with what your hear tells you… And If you try sharing it with someone else they will probably tell you you’ve simply ‘lost it’… These people usually are not aware of this deep spiritual reality and give you ‘practical’ advice which doesn’t work for a twinflame relationship…

Understand that what is happening to you is not unusual… and you are perfectly all right.
Just Believe in yourself and follow your heart… and everything will be okay :)

Understand spirituality
The more you understand the spiritual reality, the more sense everything will start to make.
The relationship between Twinflames is basically spiritual… You’ll understand whats going on in the relationship the more you explore spirituality… This is not something that is necessary… but I believe it helps allot.

And If you’re comfortable with it, use the Violet Flame to balance your karma… this (or any other meditation) also helps calm the mind which is required during this confusing and difficult phase.

(Reference: theeternalbliss.wordpress.com)

146 thoughts on “Advice For Twin Flame Chaser

  1. eva, at some point I realized that I am runner myself too. I was afraid of this too. But not any more. What is happening now? We still are not together, but I am not chaising him or ranning from him any more. It doesn’t metter – we ARE together in our souls. I was meditating last morning and “saw” him sitting next to me, hugging me and it doesn’t hurt any more. It hurted before, because I wanted to hug him phisically. I am happy that I have met him, that he IS in my life, even we are with another persons.
    Let him go. When you try to hold him, to make him love you, make him understand that You ARE THE ONE – it is in some point running too. You are holding on this so tight because you are scared to loose him. You are running away from the truth that you are together even you aren’t together phisicaly.
    When you will stop trying to get him, then you will not be the runner anymore.
    To be the runner – it is not only when you are trying to avoid someone, when you are trying to get away and out of those feelings, that is also when you are holding too tight to this feeling, to this person, scared to loose, scared that he never will be with you, scared that it was only your dream and he is not your twin flame.
    That is how I feel this now. (sorry about my english).

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    • We are giving each other flirts at this time. my question is does he know has he had the visions just as i had that i am his twin flame??? i have stoped chasing him but look forward to each time he contacts me does he know we are twin flames??

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      • If he is your twin flame – he knows and feels you the same as you do. At least in his heart. Does he allows himself as human to understand what is going on – I don’t know. Does he understands what is going on – I don’t know. But deep inside him he feels the same as yoy. Maybe he is just not ready for you or maybe he has chousen to be just friend to you. I can’t tell. Twin flame – it doesnt mean that you will be together in this lifetime as romantic partners. Just – let it be. Live your life with joy and love, work on yourself and then, who knows… I tried to figure out this in my situation too – will we be together, why we met. But it just makes pressure and stress in our lives. Now I decided to live day by day, enyoing moments with him and without him. And I hope that someday we will be ready for each other. This feeling of love is so amazing :) don’t you think so?

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      • i have a spirtual healer who has helped me alot with this he is my true twin and we will be together but i am in process of a divorce married for 38 yyrs he can not join me till its completed he knows this so for now we just flirt and talk on an off he is also not ready an has a few things to take care of but by this sumer we are supose to be together

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  2. Beloved energy comes to me and fills me periodically as though I am perfectly one with my TF. It’s like the universe knows what I need to transcend the pain of separation. This is truly a path and not just about a romantic relationship.

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  3. my twin flame ran and came back to me without doing anything it was painful cause all I wanted to do was chase him but in my heart I knew he would come back😊 and he did I’m sure he will run again cause we are not yet at the point we should be …if that makes any sense… This is the most pain I have ever felt undesirable strong aching I’m hoping my guardian angel will help in this crazy journey so we can be together forever.. Anyone feel like this or am I crazy?

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    • It is for certain one of the hardest things you will ever experience in your life. I wish I could say it gets easier. However I think we learn to accept it as part of the reunion process as well as helping us to learn to love unconditionally. So no you are not crazy.

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  4. I have been in a relationship that I feel has twin flame tendencies for over two years. We are both married to others. I noticed our connection spiritually before him. We have both tried to end our connection, but emotionally we have been tied. I know that neither of us can hate or ever be fully done with each other. He pursued me, but in the end I am the chaser and he is he runner. He has tried to end things because he is choosing that his marriage is where he thinks he should be and that we can go forward as friends. I have never felt so devastated and confused. Emotionally, I have hit bottom and barely able to function at times. I am in the process of ending a 26 year relationship (18 years of marriage) because at 41 years of age I connected with someone else who spiritually awakened me and helped me realize my true self. The pain of losing my twin flame is unbearable. As time goes on it doesn’t get easier and I worry about him because he is repressing all of his feelings. I feel in my heart we will be together but the future seems so unknown and it difficult to feel hurt by his abandonment.

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    • I was in exact same situation. It’s almost been a year since he ran and I still can’t ease the pain. I miss him constantly and life is so boring without him. If you need some one to talk to you can email me. sassyccc321@gmail.com

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    • I do understand you and am in the same situation. Something that is helping me is understanding that I want him to be happy. I really want him to be happy – smiling, loving, enjoying hes life. I can’t take him away from something he has been choosed as his happiness. He just not ready jet. Maybe I am not ready for him too? Maybe we are not ment to be together in this lifetime? Who knows… I just want him to be happy. And I will live my life as good as I can and as happy as I can. I know that if I would take some steps, I would “get” him, but I feel that I can’t do that, just because I want him to be happy, because if he isn’t ready to leave his marriage and be with me, we would be unhappy together. I take that joy from the moments we are together, sending him love and just live my life as happy, peaceful and loving I can.
      Just remember that you ARE together, you are ONE. And try to live your life – loving, caring, enjoying life. If he is your twin flame, it DOESN’T mean that you will be together romantically in this life time. Try not to focus on that. Just say thank you for possibility to know him. And focus on what you want.
      What is what you want? Be happy? Be with someone you feel love? Don’t focus on that you want to be with HIM, just focus on what you really want. Great happiness can be found not only with twin flames.
      That is my experience. Hopefully you will get to the point where love for that person becomes unconditional and will not make you feel pain just because he has different life purpose, and you will find that great happiness and love even without being romantically together with your twin flame.

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      • This is so true, I’m just discovering someone is my twin flame after the experience of knowing them for a few years. How everything transpired at the end made me realize there was a deeper meaning behind us meeting. This experience is one of the most painful and mind boggling things I have ever went through, it is so hard to figure out what is going on and why you feel the way you feel about this person, it’s just that instant connection and boom you are drawn to them and have so much love for them it is unexplainable, and the crazy thing is you don’t have to spend a bunch of time around them, the connection is just there and won’t go anywhere. throw circumstances of life in the situation(marriages,other prior commitments, distance) and it gets even crazier
        . I see why it is suppose to be a spiritual awakening and growth for the parties involved because that is exactly where it leads you, there is no choice in the matter. I’m still trying to figure things out and struggling a bit, but i do know it has help inspire me to go fourth without fear with my life purpose, which is a change in career I have been holding back on for years, there are so many ways I want to help this world become a better place, and that career change is my starting point. As far as if I will ever be with that person….I don’t know what my creator intends as my destiny, all I can do is let go and let god do what he/she knows is for my highest good.
        I do know I am being divinely guided, I keep seeing number synchronicities every 2 seconds, and if I look up the meaning they are usually pretty accurate with what is going on in my life, right now with that situation I keep getting number sequences when I pray for answers that tell me to have faith, trust and patience, that this was a blessing in disguise and the answers to my prayers, it also says there are factors that need to fall in place before I can get my desired outcome, but things are going on behind the scenes that I can’t see right now….I trust this will all work out, I’m just gong to live my life and work on me and help others that need me…sorry for the long rant, not everyone experiences this and it can be lonely not having anyone to relate to that won’t think you are crazy.

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  6. I am looking for words of comfort. At this point I am more lost than I have ever been before. I am not even sure I am sane anymore. Does anyone else have these feelings? I have spent years dealing with this tf stuff and I would like out now. I always understood the need to let God do his work, and I trusted. I worked hard on myself, and I saw my own life transforming and I knew the universe was working perfectly. Divine bliss! I believed we would reunite, I was strong and filled with such gratitude! But everything is changing – my family are stepping into my journey, they hate my twin so much, they don’t want him in my life ever, they worry about me, they don’t understand me and want me to ‘move on’. I really really wish I could as this feels like a nightmare. My tf loves another woman and I am losing it. My poor heart, how will it ever recover from this punishing painful experience? People talk about the magic of twin flame love – oh such bliss. what about the endurance required, the mental health issues and regular break downs? The isolation, sense of delusion, crazy confusion and heartache? I have reached a point where I can no longer see how this can ever ever work out well. I pray for sweet relief – God help me.

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    • Sarah, Sarah, Sarah! I have been where you are. I think there comes a point where we just give up. After 7 years of working on myself, trying to heal and clear all my own issues, everything has just become tiresome. Enough with the Twin Flame crap I say, at least here in the physical! I don’t know of many Twin Flames who have actually made it through the all the BS to finally achieve union. Is it us? Are we to blame for the runner running? Are we to blame for them not doing their own inner work and awakening to who they are and who we are to them?? I say NO! For far too long this journey has caused me nothing but heartache and misery and I finally reached a point where I don’t care if he ever comes back. At this point I will probably never trust him to stay. Every time he has come back into my life, he finds another reason to leave, so why would I ever take him back only to have him keep walking away? So I have told him to stay away. I don’t want this anymore. I’m done.

      So now I’m beginning to wonder if this isn’t the point Sarah. That we are meant to meet them and awaken ourselves and do the inner work on ourselves and eventually reach a point where we no longer want or need them in our lives. I have read that some of these meetings of Twins are not really Twin meetings at all, these ones we meet are only the catalyst for our own awakening. That we were never meant to be with them because in truth they are not our true Twin Flames. They were just a means to an end, our own growth. At some point we have to love ourselves enough to stop the craziness and let go. That is where I am now. I deserve better than I have gotten from him. I demand a love that is true and lasting and with someone who is strong and awake and knows what he wants, that he has worked through all of his own stuff and is now ready to be in a union. I’m not saying that we both wouldn’t still have inner work to do but at least we would be aware of the connection and be able to work through things together.

      So don’t be afraid to let go of this one Sarah. Chances are he isn’t meant for you at all. Let go and then be ready and set the intent that you want to have your true Twin Flame come to you now. I don’t want a “relationship” anymore. I suck at relationships to begin with. What I want is the one who is meant for me, the one who will see me for all that I am, flaws and all, and will love me for all of it. Someone who is ready and willing to work through whatever issues may arise together. I won’t settle for anything less anymore.

      So know this too Sarah, you are not alone. If you need to talk, please feel free to write to me, carolynchipman@ymail.com. Take care and stay strong. This wouldn’t have been brought to you if you weren’t strong enough to handle it, remember that. Much love!

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      • Yeah, I agree with you. He/she CAN be your twin flame, but maybe you are not meant to be together in this life time. Maybe you are meant to be together only as friends, not lovers. The thing that you HAVE met your twin flame, doesn’t mean that you will be together in this life time :( And the thing that we must learn is to love UNCONDITIONALLY – and it means to love without asking anything back. Just letting him/her live his life. Be free. Send him/her your love, but letting them to choose to accept that love or not.

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    • Sarah I have been where you are its very hard time yes i agree. first you have to kinda forget what he is doing and with who then you have to learn to love your self all the time you want to send him love he is not ready for you as you are not ready for him you both have things to learn and take care of. believe me ive been there now i am just 2 months away i talked to a spirtual advisor medium who has guided me forward on this unconditional journey and dnce to be with my twin. tyr to find one. in the beginning i meditated alot it did help i took a walk with my twin we were together i dream about him we sleep together in our subconcious i know this by how i am whaen i wake we share the same dreams remember its very scarey to accept what is happening people will think you are crazy . when the time is right you will be together love and dreams to you

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    • Please give up the concept of twin flames for your sanity, it’s real but let it go and move on,maybe you were not meant to be with this person in this lifetime, I think even though you are working on yourself you STILL have expectations and that is something you need to let go of. Don’t work to make yourself a better person so you can reunite with your twin flame, just make yourself a better person just because that is what is good for the world. Don’t ever want to be with someone that does not want to be with you, if he is in love with another woman let him go and know that you deserve someone that loves and cares for you, don’t settle for less just because you believe he is your twin flame, open your heart to love from anyone that is willing to give you what you need.This is why they say the twin flame experience is not always meant to be all about romance, it’s not a fairytale, but a real life lesson and learning to love yourself is an important part of it.

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    • Hi Sarah,
      Don t mean to be harsh, but life is not all about him. You are giving this person way too much power over yourself. Never let anyone drive you to the point of insanity, twin or not. If he s in love with someone else so be it, get a life and move on thats all you can do.

      danigirl

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  7. I’m feeling that same lost, hurt, disconnected emotion that you all have described. I’m trying to let him go, but I think of him all the time. We first met as children and I adored this boy. We only had a short time together before he moved away. I didn’t understand love as a 12 yr old, but I cried for weeks when he left. I honestly didn’t understand it. Fast forward 20+ years and we reconnected. The connection is still amazing. Sex with him is unbelievable, emotional, raw, beautiful. Yet, after a few months of seeing each other his life took him across the country again. We’ve stayed seeing each other despite the distance for over a year. I will go for trips or he will come for visits. Our time together is peaceful, honest and feels like an escape from the world. Then I return home and it’s over. He’ll keep in touch, but not daily, usually weekly if that. I know he feels it too, but he is running… I can’t keep doing this. My heart aches for him. it’s as though out powerful relationship scares the shit out of him and he panics, cutting communication, yet never fully letting go. It hurts me, but I can’t go there, I have children from prior marriage and I can’t move them far away. He wont come here. I understand he is protection himself too, and im learning that our selfless love is so powerful, but I am definitely the chaser and I hold on tighter. It’s lonely and I find a hard time enjoying life without him.

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    • Hey Lynn so are you meaning that all of this is STILL going to take that long? I don’t want to feel or fal in love anymore bcuz I am already sick and tired of crying and wanting and trying. I have been rejected so many times and it still hurts. I just want to be with him and I don’t want all this crisis to continue. Sometimes I wish it were love bcuz I’d anything and EVERYTHING for him. But I don’t know if I can love at 13 years. But at times I just wish I never saw him bcuz it was so hard having to start middle school, friendship problems, family problems, my spiritual awakening suddenly occurring after meeting him PLUS him. I’m so scared right now. The only thing I’m glad is that I finally understand the world better instead of being stuck in society’s prison. I understand more but I am not understood.

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      • First let me say this Annabelle, you are the first I have heard of that has found their Twin and knows it at age 13. I’m not saying it’s not real because what you say sounds like many other stories I have read about Twin Flames. I think it’s amazing that you have gone through your own awakening at a young age. Everything you say about your family thinking you have changed a lot and that you are crazy is exactly what most of us have gone through. It’s not unusual to lose friends and even family on this journey because no one can understand what you are going through unless they are going through it themselves or have been through it.

        As for his leaving, that is also all too common in the Twin Flame relationship, and yes it does hurt like hell when they leave, I have been through it and most of the others here have also been through it. Honestly I’m not really sure how to advise you on this. I will just tell you what I tell most people who ask, work on yourself, love yourself, loving yourself is probably one of the biggest lessons we are here to learn. Try not to focus on what he is doing or not doing and be patient. Chasing only makes them run further or at least that has been my own experience. You just have to come to a place of acceptance inside yourself that you have found him but you may or may not be together. There is no guarantee in this that you will be together. With you being so young it may take time for you both to grow to the point where you can be together and hold the energy of unconditional love. It’s hard to say hun, we are going through an energy wave which will cause a major shift in consciousness that is supposed to peak on September 28th or early October, and so perhaps that will wake up the Twins that are on the run and then they will remember who they are and who we are to them. That’s not much consolation I know but right now that is all I have. Take care and maybe someone else here will have some more advice for you.

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  8. Hello. I am wondering if it was possible to meet your twin flame very young. Like at age 13.I have a strong feeling that it is him. I got a bit freaked out when I first read about twin flames while I was going through the runner/chaser phase bcuz it was completely my situation. Nobody rlly gave me very good advice bcuz they haven’t rlly heard of this situation so I felt alone and lost.I also have been very hurt and he has changed me in so many ways. The last time I tried to talk to him I got so nervous and could not stop shaking bcuz I felt like he was right inside of me so I left as fast as I could. I have gone through my awakening and I started seeing 11:11 and I still do see repeated numbers. I thought I was going CRAZY. Like I cried from depression and over him many times cuz I felt so broken…I’m still confused and scared bcuz I never that I never had felt such strong feelings and getting hurt like this before. Just that he is gone now and I’m trying to start again. I am the chaser but everytime he starts to ignore me from my failed attempts of bringing us closer together I also start to back away everytime he does. Soon he comes closer after a short time of not seeing each other again and I try again and the cycle continues. I KNOW he has feelings for me. And I just KNOW he wants to be with me as much as I do bcuz I can totally see it in his eyes everytime we make strong eye contact.That’s why I don’t give up. But he is in high school now and I’m still in middle school so I won’t see him for a year. I still have feelings for him but I’m trying to “let go” but it is SO HARD. And I’m so scared of being rejected again. I’m not planning on talking to him anytime soon either bcuz I just don’t think my physical, and emotional body can handle him so close to me.

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  9. Please help me. I am so scared and my family thinks that I am changed so much. I’m interested in reincarnation and past lives and law of attraction and the universe etc all of a sudden. Then I start to back away from everyone bcuz nobody understands me anymore. I just wanted him but he left me for no reason. Thanks.

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    • Annabelle- please don’t let my experience with meeting my twin flame at 12 make you think that he is definitely your twin flame. I only say that because he moved away after a short time living in my home town when we were in middle school and 20 yrs later we reconnected. Now, after a year and a half of seeing each other, and beginning to go through my own spiritual awakening, do I feel that he is my twin flame.

      I think it is amazing that you have undergone the transformation of an awakening at such a young age. This is not common, but perhaps you are an old soul, and way ahead of your time. I bet you are such an amazing girl!!! You need to focus on this first and foremost!! You are amazing!!! You are ahead of your time and sure it’s so hard to “fit in” when you are so beyond your peers. Focus on you and loving YOU!!!

      I should also tell you that I met my ex husband when I was 15. If I had heard of a twin flame at that time, I would’ve thought he was my twin flame. I was madly in love!! He never was very good to me however. I see that now. I was hurt for such a long time. I Know now that he was/is a soul mate, and that’s amazing in itself. I learned a lot from my ex and the pain did help me become who I am today. However- he wasn’t my twin flame.
      You are young, maybe not spiritually or emotionally, but in this lifetime, you are just a baby. A beautiful baby girl!!! You have your whole life ahead of you!!! Soul mates are amazing, pehaps a love from a past life, but maybe he isn’t your twin flame. As you get older, you’ll change some and see things differently. If he is a twin flame, he’ll come back into your life!!! In the meantime- tAlk to other boys, meet new people, enjoy your friends!!! What if he is only a soul mate and your twin flame is out there? You’ll meet him eventually, especially since you’re already awake!! Amazing!! I would love to talk to you. You seem like such an amazing girl!!

      Just live life im the moment!! Enjoy life!! Focus on you! Have you tried yoga?? I LOVE YOGA!! It helps me to meditate and feel my own emotions. Sometimes we get caught up in feeling something, but if we dig deeper, we learn so much about ourselves and why we are feeling this way.

      I’m here if you need to talk!! In all honesty- I hope you consider all that im saying. Like I said, I was obsessed with my ex husband since I was 15, but he was just a soul mate, we taught each other so much through the pain and love and misunderstandings, but he wasn’t my twin flame. You have a whole life ahead of you!!! So much to do and see!! You’ll meet other soul mates–best friends, boys, teachers, etc. it’s amazing!!! Just tell yourself one thing every morning when you wake, “I am amazing, I will live my life in the moment, enjoying all the beauty God gave us, and I deserve to be loved!!!! I deserve to be treated with love and respect. I am amazing!!!”

      Start there!!! K? Lots of love and positive vibes being sent your way!!! 😘😘😘🙏

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      • Hello Lynn :) thank you so much for your advice honestly, it’s kind of hard to find any good advice when nobody even understands what’s going on with you. I know what your meaning, I know that a lot of people mistaken a soulmate as their twin flame but, its been a little over two months since I’ve seen him and I still “feel” him you know? There’s a chance he is my twin and there’s a chance he isn’t but I’m glad that he did awaken me and I’m glad that at least I got to meet a guy like him. I just miss him a lot and I would be really disappointed if we never got to reunite permanently for this life time bcuz, he taught me SO much and what’s weird is that, the anger, fear and frustration I had with him before also just popped up in my friendship and family problems which I had to deal with and still do, but it’s gotten better now, bcuz, I leaned to stand up for myself when I was starting to awaken.And you are totally right. Fitting in with everyone else just dosent work out for me, I just feel like being alone a lot bcuz my interests just don’t go with everyone else’s.
        And I believe that loving myself is my problem. I just don’t like myself and especially through this CHANGE it got a bit worse. And I don’t like how I can’t just fit in with ppl at school no matter how hard I try i just can’t :( he is running from me, but I agree that I am running firm myself too. I don’t feel like I’m good enough for such an amazing guy like HIM and plus he is friends with so many beautiful girls unlike me, I am not beautiful in anyway. I don’t understand why he chooses to seem to want and pay attention to me and not them?? Plus we’ve had a small conversation by text once and sadly it was the last one we’ve had yet. Then the next day he would just ignore me like nothing ever happened between us, but he dosent get that kinda makes me feel hurt bcuz I wanted to get close to him and be friends with him. He isn’t the shy type and when he likes a girl (he dated twice) he gets close and gets to know them. I don’t know what he thinks is wrong with me, and it’s quite obvious he has feelings for me. I know that soulmatea are thrre to teach us a lesson, but with this boy he actually taught me to stand up for myself partly cuz of the awakening too lol. I feels so different than the girl I was last year. I feel so much stronger and better and much more cleared of my problems. It is just I don’t love myself enough to feel as if I deserve him. At least that now he’s gone to high school I can let my shoulders down a little. Lynn thank you so much, it makes me feel so much better to know someone actually cares about a teenager that talks about this kind of stuff and believes her. A lot of ppl think I’m just an obsessed teen with a crush(which I kind of was). It was hard but I am happy to know that at least I finally know that I was not going insane for no reason. And I will try yoga too.I have tried to meditate once but I could not concentrate bcuz it was noisy and I didn’t know how to meditate, so I’ll practics it more.
        Thank you once again Lynn 😊 although I can’t love myself for who I am right now, I will try to get to know myself and through each day I will find soemhting good about me, and hopefully I will find friends that treat me with respect too. I guess that all I will have to do is wait until next year when I see him again, and learn to have self love, and see the brighter side of things. Thanks once again Lynn!! 😘😘

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      • Annabelle,
        So happy to hear from you!! We seem a lot alike! I just want you to know that you don’t ever be able to be with your twin flame until you are spiritually ready. This means you find a love for yourself as well, first!! I am still learning to love myself, and perhaps that’s part of the reason my twin flame and I aren’t together. It’s a very hard thing to do, love yourself, in this world where everything deemed beautiful is far from what we see beautiful as awakened souls. It gets easier, just learn to trust yourself and believe in yourself! You are perfect the way you are! This is how God intended you to be! Our thoughts are powerful, everything is energy!!! So, only tell yourself positive things about you!! Love you!! Sure, we are human and living and learning, we all make mistakes, but use these times to awaken even moreso. :)
        Only then, once you are at peace with yourself and loving you, awakened to a higher state, will the chance to be with your twin flame arise. If they run, perhaps it’s just not the right time yet. ❤️ Eventually it will be time.

        So hPpy to hear from you and to know you are doing well!!! Enjoy these middle school years! Honestly, almost everyone feels like they don’t fit in during this time. It is a hard time of transition, but enjoy it! You have your whole life ahead of you!! If I begsn loving myself, doing yoga, meditating, etc at your age, I think by now perhaps Id have my twin flame in my life! ❤️ You are amazing, definitely an old soul. I believe we are all here for a journey, lessons to learn, perhaps lessons chosen by our own selves before we started this life! Take comfort in that and know you are on the path you are meant to be on!!

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  10. I can totally relate to everything on here. I’m 19 and about 8 months ago I met this girl from work, as she started doing the same job as me. (I work in a big retail place) She’s 9 years older than me and is in a relationship! We instantly pretty much became friends. Almost as if we’d been friends for years. For about 2 months we only talked at work, about spirituality and alternative topics, and I didn’t think she would be interested in these sorts of topics, but her curiosity got the better of her and slowly we started sharing a lot about ourselves, much to my surprise. A few months pass, and we now hang out, outside of work, on the weekends, plus she trains me during the week(fitness stuff). She started to appear in my dreams and I began to find myself constantly thinking about her, but on a very deep level. I came to the conclusion that I was in love..deeply. I began searching for answers and stumbled upon all the twin flame sites( I’d never heard of a twin flame before). I know she has a soft spot for me, because of the little things she does. Its literally indescribable the feelings I have for her, but they aren’t in a needy, clingy sort of way and deep down I know she feels the same way. We look into each others eyes and I see her soul, its surreal. Since we’ve started hanging out, I started seeing 11:11, 10:10, 5:55 etc. Our birthdays are constructed of the exact same numbers, and add up to 22 (master number). Synchronicities started happening in other ways as well. We are the same on the so many levels, just odd habits etc. I may be overthinking this, but I feel that my heart knows its true.
    She’s told me that she thinks its strange that she’s friends with a 19 year old, and she’s also told me she’s never met anyone like me before, she’s not used to being so open with someone. Although neither of us have mentioned the twin soul idea, I just know somethings there. I completely trust her and she trusts me. Should I risk telling her how I feel?

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    • From my own point of view Adam, I think I would just let things develop as they are meant to. Telling her that you love her might scare her off and she will run from it. The thing with Twins who meet and there is a considerable age difference, especially with you being only 19, the older one tends to think it’s not really appropriate. The thing is that this experience opens us up, wakes us up and becomes the catalyst for our own spiritual growth. This will teach you how to love someone unconditionally without needing it to be more than it is, without needing her to tell you she loves you. The way I look at things is that if it’s meant to be it will be. We as physical beings have zero control over what happens in these relationships. Trust me I know this and I learned it the hard way. Your higher self will be the one who directs the timing and so on of this relationship. So trust the Universe to work things out as they are meant to be. Enjoy the time you spend with her. I’m not sure if this helps or not and maybe someone else can add their two cents worth as well. Love and Light to you Adam!

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  11. My twin flame and I met so randomly one night and we dated for 6 months. It felt so perfect and right, but then out of nowhere (literally we were fine then the next day it was over) he broke it off with me to get back with his ex girlfriend. They are now not together anymore. We have been broken up for almost a year, but for this whole year I’ve been seeing his family around and been in touch with him a little bit. We have never been fully disconnected, which is even more hurtful sometimes because I don’t understand why he doesn’t want to get back together with me. I try not to get in touch with him but I feel so empty without him. I’ve never felt this way after a breakup, especially not a year later. I still miss him and care about him the same way I did a year ago. Is it OK to get in touch with him and tell him I still care or will that scare him away even more?

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  12. Reading this gave me so much comfort. I’m sitting in a puddle of happy tears. I feel like I can let go of my preoccupation with wanting to know what I can do or if things will work out. I know we have a divine connection that is like a tattoo on my soul. I see myself in his eyes. I always find the light in them through all the darkness. Our eyes connect with a language of their own and the world disappears around us every time. I have even experienced his soul inhabiting my own, and I could feel his loves, fears, dreams, overwhelms and all. He is a runner, but so impressively evolutionary. I watch his and my own consciousness grow so consistently and steadily. I believe the universe is on our side to connect us solidly in this lifetime. I have found one of my soul mates who understands and helps me stay grounded in my knowing. This post helped me connect even deeper. I found some healing for now and the future in confirmation that I am not here alone and we will always be together. Thank you so much!

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  13. I need some help with this. I am the chaser and my guy is the runner. we broke up a few months ago and i moved away but we have been in contact everyday. we both can’t seem to stop talking and have each other in our lives, but he is dating other girls and i am not. i am sitting here waiting essentially for him to “wake up” and come back to me. he is close and says things that he wants with me and we talk of the future together, but he is scared. i know he is scared of our connection and his family doesn’t like me because of all the burning we had to go through together. it was intense last year, but now i have found peace and stopped worrying so much, but of course i still do..
    my question is should i stop talking to him? should i pull the plug on communication? i have tried before but run back and same with him. i tried stepping back a little but its too hard to not treat him as my partner. i need some advice, nothing ever mentions a chaser leaving a runner.

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    • Hey Melissa it is possible for the chaser to leave the runner cuz I have done so myself. The runner can drive the chaser “crazy” so sometimes what comes it’s that they think it’s best to stay away. I have had experience bcuz I felt so confused that I backed away. Also, my twin dates other women but I can’t seem to get him out of my head either. I wonder if this is supposed to happen??

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