I thought I would share my answer to a question from a follower of my blog with you. We all have questions regarding someone being our Twin Flame or not, how do you know for sure and what do you do if he or she is your Twin Flame? I will say again that I am not an expert and neither do I have all the answers because I still have my own questions so take what I said to that person for what it’s worth, my own insights and musings on my own Twin Flame journey. Here it is:
I wish I had some truly great advice to give you but sad to say I don’t. I can tell you what I have learned and maybe that will help.
I did an online course or webinar about 3 years ago with Angelina Heart who is one of the foremost “experts” on Twin Flames. I put expert in quotation marks because honestly I don’t believe there is any expert on Twin Flames. Every Twin Flame journey is unique to the two people involved. However she did say a couple of things that have stuck with me and I do believe are true.
First, your Twin Flame is first and foremost a stream of consciousness, or energy, if you will. What is happening with your Twin, the person who holds that embodiment of your Twin on this plane, is mostly irrelevant. You can however still have a relationship with your Twin on the etheric plane. Angelina and several others who have put out info on Twin Flames have said that you can meet your Twin Flame in an “imaginary” place and have that relationship that you long for there. Let me explain.
I have a friend with a Twin who is in spirit. He did live but died several years ago. He gives my friend information to pass onto me to help me with my own Twin journey. Because, like you, my relationship with my Twin Flame is off and on with long stretches of no communication or contact what so ever. I have been in this relationship for a little over 5 years. One of the things my friend’s Twin told me was to meet my Twin on the astral plane, to be with him there, to love him there. I said I didn’t know how to do that and he said that all I had to do is create a place in my imagination for us to meet. So I created a room, a bedroom with a sitting area. That room has a door that leads out to a small patio with steps that lead down to a very beautiful cove with a white sandy beach. The water is a greenish blue. We have dolphin friends that we swim with there and a sail boat that we take out on the water from time to time. This is our place. This is where I go in my mind to be with him, to love him and to make love with him too.
You can do similar with your Twin. Create a place for you both to meet, make it anything that has relevance to you or to both of you, include things you both like to have around you and things you like to do together. The only limit is your own imagination! I was told by my friend’s Twin that if I did this, spent time with my Twin in this way, loving him and so on, that on some level he’s aware of what we do there. He will feel that love and that connection we have there. Does that make sense for you? I tell you it has been the saving grace for me, without that place to go to be with my Twin I don’t think I would have made it this far.
The second thing I will mention here is that you need to remember that you and your Twin Flame are never truly apart or separated because you are always connected, you are always ONE. The separation we feel here is an illusion, it’s not real. Our Twin is inside us just as we are inside them. This is a connection, a fact of our reality as Twin Flames, that can’t be broken no matter how hard we or they try to break it. Sometimes it is best for us to let them go their merry way and do whatever it is they feel like doing knowing all the while that the pull of the Twin union will bring them back. Remember whatever it is they are up to when not with us is part of their own growth and development. Things they wanted to explore and learn during this life. It truly has nothing to do with us.
In the meantime, while they are off doing whatever without us, it is our “job” to continue to learn and grow as individuals ourselves so that when the reunion does take place, we are all ready for it. So as hard as it is to be without them, we need to continue to with our own lives as best we can knowing that it will happen when the time is right. So many Twin Flames are not together right now, you are definitely not alone in that. I can only assume that there is a reason for that and all we have to do is wait it out. The reunions will happen in God’s divine right time and not one second before.
Something else that I will also mention is that some Twins are not going to be reunited during this lifetime. I’m not saying you are one of them because I would have no way of knowing that. But some are finding each other while one or both are married to other people. If that is the case then some of those Twins have decided to remain in their marriages with other people who are not their Twin Flame. Meeting your Twin Flame is not about having a relationship with them. Sometimes the mission of a Twin Flame couple doesn’t require them to be together physically. That love Twin Flames share is still there but does not require them being together or to destroy their marriages. Now my Twin Flame is married and I’m not. I’m not sure what the future holds for us but he does tell me that he plans on leaving her when he gets some things in place and then he will come here to be with me.
Now all that being said, there is another situation that occurs where the Twin decides this is not what they want and so when that happens a fragment of our one soul will show up to take the Twin’s place. I think I wrote about that in an article on my blog, I got the information from Mel of goldraytwinflames in a video he did. He said that we all have soul fragments as our soul splits into 12 fragments, one remains in the higher dimensions as our Higher Self, the other 10 of us are out there somewhere living their lives, that could be on other worlds or other dimensions or parallel universes. However if the Twin decides not to wake up or for whatever reason doesn’t want that relationship with us, one of the soul fragments will step into that role for us. Someone will show up for us and will hold the essence of our Twin Flame. I hope that makes sense.
I actually think that has happened for me. Well actually there are a couple of theories on this so I will share them with you as well because it might help you to find the answers you seek for yourself. The man I think of as my Twin lives in Barbados and is married. He found me on a dating site actually in January of 2008. For the first 5 months of our relationship we were in what Mel likes to call “bubble love”. Everything was beautiful and amazing, our connection, our ability to communicate telepathically and feel each other’s physical and emotional pain or whatever. But then I found evidence that he was talking to someone online that he knew before he met me. They had a thing before we met and he went back to her. This is why I’m not concerned about his marriage because he’s been having online affairs before I met him. Oh and we have never been together physically as I live in Canada. The couple of times we made plans to meet, something always came up and it didn’t happen. However that didn’t matter because distance is irrelevant in a Twin relationship.
As Mel would say, what goes up must come down and that is what happens with Twin Flames. That bubble love can’t be maintained indefinitely and so after that period of euphoria that we experience with our Twins, reality sets in and then we have one or both Twins running. My Twin was the runner in our relationship. I was brokenhearted. I cried rivers of tears. I was mad at the universe for a long time when our relationship fell apart. I fell into a deep depression and yes even considered taking my own life to end my suffering. This is when my friend’s Twin told me to meet him on the astral plane. However there came a point about a year later that my friend’s Twin told me that there was nothing left in him, the man I believe to be my Twin, for me, that I needed to let it go and move on without him.
I tried but my every waking thought was about the man I believed to be my Twin. I even had a couple of brief relationships but they never worked out and the reason is mainly my not being able to stop thinking about him. Then in July of 2010 the brother of a Facebook friend, also from Barbados, passed away. Now I didn’t know she had a brother until he died and she changed her profile photo to one of him. His name is Rob. I took one look at that photo and cried and cried and couldn’t understand for the life of me why I was so upset. I used to look at his photo and ask him why I didn’t know he was here and how did we miss our connection.
When I finally got around to telling my friends with Twins about this, they were all convinced that Rob was my Twin based on my reaction to his photo. I said he couldn’t be my Twin because of the other man that I still thought of as my Twin, I still do in some ways. Well then I had a couple of readings done by different people and they confirmed that Rob is my Twin Flame. Now I feel the energy of this beautiful man around me all the time. He’s pretty much been with me since his death. However I still think about the other man all the time!! So believe me when I say I know how confusing this can be. The thing is though, no one can tell you who your Twin Flame is, that comes from inside your own heart. I have another friend who thought for 9 years that this one man was her Twin Flame. She was convinced of it. Then a couple of months ago she discovered he isn’t and now this new man in her life is her Twin Flame. There is a Twin Flame couple who had a Youtube site and a website to help other Twin Flames and they were married. Well they are no longer together now either.
It’s a difficult journey and there are no absolutes here. I’m not an expert on the subject but I am willing to share my own knowledge and insights based on my own journey. When it comes to my relationship with the man who is living in Barbados, the first one I thought was my Twin, others have told me that it’s a co-dependent relationship or that I’m just obsessed with him. I don’t know. I know that our relationship met all the “signs you have met your Twin Flame” that I posted in one of my first blog posts. However there are times when I talk to him now and then that I can’t feel my Twin in there anymore. I have been told that he isn’t my Twin but was the one who was meant to wake me up to the Twin Flame journey. Mel would call this “the catalyst”, the one you meet who awakens you to this journey but who isn’t meant to be in your life forever. So maybe that is what he was and I have just become fixated on him. Again I don’t know. I still have some contact with him and I’m kind of waiting to see what will happen, if he’s going through his own awakening and will be ready to do this or if this is just him playing with me because he knows I love him but maybe he’s the energy vampire I was once told he was. I don’t like to think of that but again it could be true. I get very little from him at the moment, a text message every couple of days and that’s it.
As for Rob, mostly my Twin Flame relationship is with him. He’s the one I now meet on the etheric plane in the room or on the beach. I have been told recently that he is definitely my Twin Flame but that the other man, when he is in his heart, can reflect Rob to me. That loving them both is okay for that reason. She also said that if the other man leaves or I don’t want that relationship anymore, than someone else will show up for me who will hold or mirror Rob’s essence if that is what I desire. Or I can just wait for the veils to thin enough that at some point I will be with Rob in every way. The way I look at it is this. Angelina Heart said that it doesn’t matter whose face we put on our Twin Flame, because it’s not restricted to one person necessarily. If we remember that only a small part of our soul is actually in our physical bodies then we can then imagine that the soul we share with our Twin can then overshadow another person to be with us. Not sure if I’m explaining this as well as I should but it’s hard to put into words. It’s like our soul has fingers of light that can move in and out of bodies at will as it needs to with the agreement of the soul inhabiting the body. I think Angelina compared it to a bowl of clear water, the clear water being the original soul. Then you add a drop of say red food coloring (the essence of another soul) to the water and the water now turns red but the original soul is still there and now so is the other one. I know it’s all confusing.
So with all this info that I’m giving you, I hope this doesn’t confuse you more. Like I said, there are those who are convinced this one person is their Twin Flame and then, after years of believing that, something changes. So my advice to you, and I’m following this myself too, is to be open to any possibility. Who knows, the one you think of as your Twin may come back to you and everything will work out fine, or someone new will come into your life and change everything. Just don’t let life pass you by while you wait for this one to wake up and smell the coffee. Live your life, explore your options, find your life’s purpose and continue to learn and grow, all the while being open to whatever surprises God may have in store for you. That’s what I’m doing. Finding what ignites my passion and following that. Developing my other talents and gifts and trying to be in the now moment as much as possible while letting the other man do what he feels led to do for himself. I’m open to the idea that he may come back and be what I want and need him to be but if he doesn’t then Rob is still here and his love is beautiful. He’s my main relationship at any rate. So good luck on your own journey.